I’ve come to realize that there can be many people in our lives that are the “perfect person for me”. Maybe that person is the perfect partner for you and it winds up that you’re together for the rest of your lives. It can, however, also be someone that is perfect for you, but just for a week. Maybe that person comes along and helps motivate you to make a big decision in your life and then they’re gone. Maybe someone triggers you to have an epiphany about what you need in life and they’re only around for a short time. Perhaps you find a mate that is perfect for you, but only for 5 years and that’s it. All of those people were perfect for you at some point in time. People drift in and out of our lives. Some are meant to stay in our lives longer than others. Some serve a larger purpose and play a larger role in our lives. Some people we’ll forget and some are unforgettable.
Sometimes you grow apart for whatever reasons. Sometimes that growth happens over the course of a few weeks and sometimes it’s over the course of many years. There was a time when I was married. I was 24 and thought that I wanted kids when I got older. That’s how I had been conditioned. Then, between the ages of 25-30, I grew a lot. I started realizing what my wants and needs were at that time and I changed. The reality was that I didn’t want kids and I started to embrace my kinks. I changed and I was no longer the perfect person for my wife, so after 7 years of marriage, we divorced. It sucks that we didn’t grow together, but change happens and it happened to me.
I appreciate all of the people that have been perfect for me at some point in my life. Without them, I wouldn’t be who I am today and I wouldn’t change a single relationship or personal interaction I’ve had in my life. More perfect people will come along. Some will be for a short time and some will be around for a long time. Whatever the case, I can’t wait to meet them, to love them, to lose them, to be their friend, to be their confidant, to help them grow, and to be perfect for each other.